Image stylus.
I have a question to you my thousands of readers. It’s called Image stylus. This is a psychological condition, in which people will base their actions on the suspected reactions of others.
A great example of this would be from one of my collegues at work, who has started putting an ear strech in her ear. Now this is’ent my personal type of thing, but whatever gets you off.
Anyway, i asked her why she did this? What was the point of inflicting pain upon herself for apparently no gain? The reason?
When it all boils down to it, it’s “because I want my fit in with my friends” apparently this lovely collegue sincerely belives, that if she dosen’t stick with the styles that her friends use, they will shun her. And maybe they will. But if they do, then are they the right friends to have?
Nearly everybody in our society, judges themselfs by the look of others. And my question is. Is that right?
Should we do that?
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I think sometimes it is nessicary but i dunno really. Nice post though tom.
J
Great article Tom,
Your right, everyone tries to fit in, and no, in my opinion it’s not right.
Do we want to turn out as a very simular society?
I have to admit though, sometimes i do try and fit in, but physcially i don’t. For example, a lot of the time i will join in with friends drinking, but i would never change my appearance to fit in.
But this is the thing. So many people will attempt to change the cloaths they wear or how they speak, or even how the act. Just to seek approval from their peers.
I must admit at a yonger age I did.
It’s sad really…
well i just happen to be this collegue who is being refered to here. i don’t do these things just to fit in with my friends but to feel good because if i think i look good i feel good aswell!!!
yes so my friends think its cool and im accepted by them but my style is part of me and to change my stlye would be to change part of me…..
Touched a nerve apparently.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
The only reason you think that you look good, is because your friends dress in the same way, thus you idolise them & attempt to look like them.
Your style is a part of the “new you” rather than the “old you”. So in effect you have changed a part of you.
Nice article though Tom, keep up the good work.
lol Billy.
Be nice to the poor girl!
but i am differrent from my freinds and in my own way i am unique.
i havent changed my style since my mum stopped dressing me.
i understand the logic in your thinking but there is ALWAYS an exeption to the rule and you just found her!
Nobody is unique, everybody is the same in that they are all unique. You have worn a ear “stretch” since your mum stopped dressing you? Hold old are you?
There is never an exception to the rule. People are the same. Live with it.
*This comment has been toned down by Thomas Gray*
i am 16 but not you typical teenage girl i have worn my strech since i stopped working at bettys because i was not aloud to work with it in and didn’t want it to heal you can’t analyse me with out knowing who i am.
Not your typical teenage girl. Asin someone the dosent follow the trends or anything.
So really you wear your stretch as a kind of rebellion against “the man”?
Grow up girl, and get off The Human Mind. This is a place for Psychologists, not children.
I don’t have to have met you, to know all about you. Your actions speak many more words than you do.
Billly Billly Billly.
Calm down my man, or I will shut down comments on this post.
Keep the bitchyness to yourselfs!
The only reason i am on here is because the comment is about me….
I wanted to see what people thought about a girl doing something for herself not to please the male eye. You know your logics don’t apply here that is why your getting sooo unbelievable bitchy.
You tell me to get off because you know you can’t argue your way out of it. Why don’t you get back to me when you have stoped paddying about a 16 year old out witting you.
You really want me to get into this?
The reason you are here is because of a deep seated desire to argue with me. You know that you don’t posess the skills to beat me in any argument that isen’t about “Linkin Park” so you attempt to “Shut me down” by talking way outside your knowledge area with such words like “sooo”.
My logic does apply here, because it’s logic. Learn the word.
“Paddying” - What are you actually trying to say? Pick yourself up a dictionary while your in the libary looking for a book on “E’s”.
I love the way that you think that this argument can actually be won!
My reccomendations: Grow up, stop attempting to argue with people at least twice your age, and at the very least twice your inteligence. Your just not ready.
Stop attempting to be like other people. Why not make your own style?
Billy.
im happy with thie style i have now. you prooved you don’t know anything about me with linkin park and e’s?
i feel that i must let you know that style dosn’t reflect on knowledge.
i am not the type of person that is in with the latest trends and drugs.
so you contradicted yourself by telling me you know everything about me when clearly you know nothing.
i will not take advice from someone who judges everyboudy by the same book.
Actaully he’s got you down.
You do follow the latest trends and drugs. He is judging you by what you said.
“Kitty” Just got destroyed.
Argument forecefully ended.
Pick up a spoon darling. You just got served.
I followed a link to a link to a link to arrive at this page and don’t know any of you guys. My comment is this…
Wow. Billy Howard is a knob. Way to be sanctimonious, self-serving, pompous, patronising, judgmental and an all-round cock. And wow, whaddya know, that kind of bs is catching. I don’t even know YOU and I’ve made a judgment that you’re a total wanker. Congratulations on “destroying” Kitty to Billy and Tom; this whole entry doesn’t at all read like e-bullying.
Aww come on “K”.
I do love your brilliant use of such words as “sanctimonious” google is such a powerfull tool isen’t it.
You must realise that you are entering a community that you know nothing about, thus making posts like this will likely get you banned. I do respect that you wish to protect your friend (i am also assuming here that Kitty is your friend). but to be honest, for the ammount of flaming that you will recive, I would reccomend against making comments like this.
On the “rudeness” of the posts, the comments shown here, are the views of their respective parties not The Human Mind. Comments like this are meant to be taken as a light hearted joke, not a serious assault on people. If Kitty was offended, then she should have stopped posting.
Also, she was next to me at the time of this argument so I could tell if she was getting distressed, and from what I observed she wasen’t.
K. I do hope you stick around The Human Mind.
Regards
The point of bullying K, is that you can’t escape from it, and it upsets you.. Kitty could have more than easily escaped from this.
think you all need to grow up!
billy? to be honest you made yourself not appear intelligent but a pompous
and i dont think you are ‘down with’ todays youth twat
i’m 17 year old, female. nose, lip, surface piercing. i have a 16mm stretch in my ear, i do it because i enjoyed body mod. your judging way to harsh on the girl, if she wants to, she should.
if she does it for the ‘wrong’ reasons then she will learn when her ear doesn’t return to normal.
sorry but lol, linkin park? old news
try listening to parkway drive, you might learn something about my generation.